How often have you felt envious of someone? Whether for their status, wealth, health, possessions, success, family, etc..This list could go on forever. Because for me, I unfortunately do this everyday. It's not the greatest way to live, constantly comparing yourself to others, and I am not proud or boisterous of it. But it is what I have done, for as long as I can remember. It has become part of who am I.
Sad, right? Well I have been working on it over the years, and have gotten a little better! The main reason being, I think this thought:: "What if I put myself in their shoes, lived their life, for just one day?" I always remember this. No matter WHAT the circumstance - good, bad, happy, sad - because everybody has a story. A history that has made them that person you find yourself envious of {in one way or another} today.
The grass is not always necessarily greener on the other side! When I think about my struggles, failures, success, hopes, dreams and wishes, I stop to think about everyone else. Because they too, have all these. They have had to work hard, and no doubt struggle with somethings, at one point or another.
So I try to keep this in mind. About every aspect. If I am having a bad day, I try to remember that my bad day may just be somebodies version of a GREAT day! And visa versa. No matter what your circumstances, there will ALWAYS be others out there {somewhere} who have it better, and who have it worse.
Too often I take my life for granted. And when I realize this, it makes me angry! Because I know first hand, how short life truly is. It is something to be cherished and proud of! Every second of everyday is honestly a miracle, in it's own right. So I am doing my best to remember all of this! This post is in a way, my own personal reminder to myself - the bright pink post it on the dashboard - to forget about what everyone else has! To focus {and worry about} ME, MYSELF and I. To work as hard as I can to succeed in what I want to accomplish, and find MY best ways to reach MY goals!
While I am totally not all about "Me, Me, Me", sometimes in this life you have to be! Because after all, there is only ONE you, and you will never be duplicated!
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Thanks for posting this!! You're very right. A lot of times what we are envious of, isn't always better. We just need to focus on our blessings, and learn from the trials. Surround ourselves with those that make us better people, and be grateful for the beautiful lives we have been given! :)
ReplyDeleteI agree Momma! It is so easy to get caught up in envy. I think it is only human nature but it is also great to try and work on it. Not to mention I think you are a pretty good YOU.
ReplyDeleteYou are right...the grass isn't always greener on the other side...people just make it look that way...
ReplyDeleteYou don't have to compare yourself to others...you are you and I think that is perfectly perfect!!!
Hugs xxx
I have to remind myself of this too. It's natural to be envious of people who have what you want, but they have a story too.
ReplyDeleteThey have things that might make your life look like a walk in the park...you just dont' know. Not everyone shares those bad parts.
I just assume that there is something in everyone's life to be envious of.
Good post.
Lovely post!! You speak a lot of truth and I think that we get so caught up in our own lives that we forget that other people have times just as hard! Thanks for reminding us!
ReplyDeleteLove that reminder! We moved to a county where the average household income is twice that of our old county. And our income has not yet jumped that high in keeping up. So, I am constantly working on reminding myself of this. Of course, my husband told me something that helped put it in perspective for me. Since he works in many of these homes on construction, he has said that some "sold their souls". In other words, some are not happy no matter what they have. So, really, why should I be jealous if they aren't even happy with what they have, that which I personally want for myself and my children? Great meeting you from FTLOB!
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